gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show
gAy A delivers inspiring stories about queer people in sobriety who are achieving amazing feats in their recovery, proving that we are all LGBTQIA+ sober heroes.
If you are looking for a safe space where all queer people, no matter their gender, sexual orientation, age, length of sober time, or method of recovery are valid, this is the sober show for you. If you are sober, you are a hero!
This show is not affiliated with any program or institution, so you will hear stories from alcoholics and addicts where people mention getting sober using recovery methods such as rehabilitation, both inpatient and outpatient rehabs, sober living, hospitals, and some of us who got sober at home on our own. Guests may mention twelve step programs like AA, CMA, SMART Recovery, or other methods, while accepting that no one answer is perfect for everyone.
This podcast will provide valuable insights for any interested in learning more about queer recovery, from those of us with years or even decades of recovery under their belt, to people just beginning their sobriety journey, to even the sober curious or friends and family of alcoholics and addicts.
Each week, host Sober Steve the Podcast Guy tries to answer the following questions in various formats and with different perspectives:
· How do I get and stay sober in the queer community?
· Can you have fun while being sober and gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans, or queer?
· What does a sober life as a member of the LGBTQIA+ community look like?
· Where do sober gay and queer people hang out?
· How can I have good sex sober?
· What are tips and tricks for early sobriety?
· How can I get unstuck or out of this rut in my recovery?
· How will my life change if I get sober?
· Can you be queer and sober and happy?
· How can I untangle sex and alcohol and drugs?
Episodes
238 episodes
Here Queer Sober 2025 Update
Hey Super Sober Heroes— I’m back with another special update, this time joined by my longtime friend and guest, Phil from Here Queer Sober.Phil shares the exciting news about the first-ever Here Queer Sober Roundup, ...
Still Sober, Still Sexy, Still Strong - Life Updates from Steve
Hey Super Sober Heroes— I’m back on the mic with a long-overdue update!It’s been almost six months since my last episode, and so much has happened in my life and recovery journey. As of August 18, 2025, I’m 1,543 days sober, and I...
TTFN
Hey there, Super Sober Heroes 💖It’s your host, Sober Steve, checking in with 1,397 days of sobriety and a big announcement: gAy A is going on an indefinite hiatus.After nearly four amazing years, 225+ episo...
Finding Light in the Darkness ft. Dillon
Super Sober Heroes, we’re back with another in-person interview, and this week, I’m sitting down with my friend Dillon! 🏳️🌈💜 Dillon opens up about his journey to sobriety, how a birthday wake-up call led him to quit drinking, and the ...
Living Fearlessly Queer & Sober with India X Miller
Hey there, Super Sober Heroes! Your host Sober Steve is here with 1,357 days sober, and this episode is extra special because we are recording in person for the first time! I’m thrilled to welcome India X Miller
The AI Interview – Answering Big Questions About Queer Sobriety with Phil B
Super Sober Heroes, we're back for Part 2 with Phil B, co-founder of Here Queer Sober! 🎉 And this time, we’re shaking things up—AI is asking the questions!Phil and I tackle some of the biggest misconceptions and deeper...
Coming Out the Other Side with Phil B – Career, Recovery & Here Queer Sober
Super Sober Heroes, welcome back! Today, I’m joined once again by my dear friend and co-founder of Here Queer Sober, Phil B! With 7 years, 9 months, and 24 days sober, Phil shares about his whirlwind year—completing his maste...
Feeling the Feelings ft. Holland
In this episode of Gay A: The Queer Sober Hero Show, host Steve is joined by the amazing Holland, who shares his journey to recovery, approach to spirituality, and how sobriety has transformed his life. Holland, who celebrates a sobrie...
Sober Gay Adventures ft. Johnny
Episode Highlights🌍 Traveling Sober & Building Community:Johnny shares how he founded Sober Gay Adventures, offering intimate, 10-day trips for queer sober travelers to explore the world with accountability and co...
Stay Strong, Do Good, Be Brave ft. Adam S
Super Sober Heroes, today I’m joined by Adam Schuler, a writer and advocate for addiction recovery, who shares his powerful journey through relapse, resilience, and ultimately rediscovering joy in sobriety.Adam gets candid ...
Aging into Authenticity in Recovery ft. Mark V
Hey there, Super Sober Heroes! This week on Gay A, I’m joined by returning guest and podcast favorite, Mark, as we dive into the transformative power of sobriety and how it’s helped him embrace his authentic queer self.From grow...
Sober Holiday Tips and Tricks from the Vault
In this episode of gAy A, your queer sober hero show, I’m sharing holiday tips and tricks to help you navigate the festive season while staying sober. Whether you’re celebrating your first holiday in recovery or just looking for a litt...
Still Fucked and Insane ft. Scott G
In this episode, originally released on April 22nd, 2022, Steve welcomes Scott to share their experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.Follow Scott on Instagram @scotttgrasso and follo...
Addiction and Zodiac Signs Revisited
Episode Description: Hey there, Super Sober Heroes! This week on Gay A, I’m diving back into the vault to revisit one of my earliest episodes on astrology and addiction. Originally recorded at just 105 days sober, this episo...
Sober, Queer, & Kinky ft. Ralf: Embracing Recovery and Authenticity
Sober Steve is joined by Ralf Rasmussen, host of RealClearFetish! Talks RealClearPlay! Ralf shares his journey from addiction to seven years of sobriety, delving into the challenges and triumphs of navigating the intersection ...
Steve on RealClearFetish! Talks RealClearPlay!
Check out my guest appearance on RealClearTalk this week, and check out the show wherever you find this podcast!!Show notes from the episode:Steve B has been sober since May 28th, 2021, and is the host of gAy A: The Queer Sober ...
Stay Connected, Stay Sober ft. Richard D
In this episode of Gay A: The Queer Sober Hero Show, host Sober Steve welcomes Richard Dean, a fellow sober friend, to share his inspiring journey through addiction, recovery, and the exploration of codependence. Richard opens up about...
Blank Spaces, Brave Faces, and Swift Steps ft. Julianne Griffin
In this episode of gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show, Sober Steve welcomes back Julianne Griffin, aka Jewels, the founder of Swift Steps—a unique sober community for Swifties in recovery. They dive deep into the therapeutic power of jou...
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Traveling in Sobriety ft. Frankie
Hey there, super sober heroes! 🦸🏽♂️ This week on Gay A, Sober Steve is thrilled to welcome back a fan-favorite guest and globetrotter, Frankie New! Steve and Frankie dive into a topic close to Frankie's heart: Traveling in Sobriety.
Sobriety, Social Media, and Self Care ft. Jaycee K Clark
Hey, Super Sober Heroes! In this episode of gAy A, Sober Steve welcomes back Jaycee K. Clark for a powerful conversation on the impact of social media on mental health and sobriety. With over 1,227 days sober, Steve sits down with Jayc...
Being "Out" in Sobriety ft. Danielle
Hey there, Super Sober Heroes! In today’s episode of gAy A, host Sober Steve (with 1,227 days sober!) welcomes back Danielle—one of our long-time pod family members, to dive into a topic that many in the LGBTQ+ community can relate to: Bein...
Sober Support from The Vault (Part Two)
In this week’s episode, host Steve Bennet-Martin, aka Sober Steve the Podcast Guy, continues the dive into gAy A's archives with Part 2 of "Sober Support from the Vault." After more than 225 episodes, Steve brings back some powerful ea...
Sober Support from The Vault (Part One)
In this exciting two-part special, gAy A is diving into the archives! Host Steve Bennet-Martin, aka Sober Steve the Podcast Guy, takes you on a journey back to some of the earliest episodes of the show. With over 225 episodes and more ...
Surviving Socializing Sober ft. Savanna
In this week’s episode of gAy A, Sober Steve the Podcast Guy sits down with his long-time sober sibling, Savannah. With 1,215 days sober for Steve and 1,365 days for Savannah, they share an honest conversation about surviving the chall...
AI on Sobriety & Queerness: Steve interviews ChatGPT
In this exciting and unconventional episode of gAy A, Steve Bennet-Martin, aka Sober Steve the Podcast Guy, puts AI to the test! Can AI really understand the intersections of queerness and sobriety? Steve and ChatGPT dive into some of the most ...
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